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Changing the world by restoring the lives, marriages and families of men struggling with addiction.
We lead men through a journey of recovery using the 12 Steps, community, sponsorship and other proven recovery strategies and tools.
God causes all things to work together for the good of those who love him and we’ve seen him do it over and over again.
We’ve seen God do so many miracles in the lives and marriages of those we have the honor of helping. He truly does bring BEAUTY from ASHES (Isaiah 61:3)
Probably the most common place that people get stuck in their recovery journey is when they lack the amount of willingness necessary for the journey. It’s that moment when your heart and mind agree to NOT do the things necessary to move forward. At its core, it is a stubborn, prideful attitude of refusal to do what God and/or others are suggesting for us to do.
Learning several short, easy-to-memorize prayers has been instrumental to our recovery and the development of an intimate, moment-by-moment relationship with God. I've included several of our favorites below. I hope you are as blessed by them as we have been.
Your porn addiction isn’t your problem. It’s the solution. At least it is what you have been pursuing as the solution to your REAL problem. If you’re addicted to porn (or anything else – alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, food, etc.), stopping the use of the substance or acting out in the behavior is really not your problem. That sounds crazy, right?
I want to remind you about how deeply you are loved. It would benefit you greatly to remember often how precious you are to your heavenly Father. If he watches over all of the sparrows, how much more does he love you? If he clothes the lilies of the field with royal splendor, how much more will he clothe you? Remember that you are not your own – he has purchased you. You were bought with a price; the precious blood of Jesus who bled and died for you. That is how valuable you are to him. Do you know that you're loved that deeply?
I choose a state-of-mind that is founded in the freedom, strength and courage that flows from my relationship with Jesus. I choose to Be strong and courageous (Joshua 1:9). God has given me the ability to control my thoughts, so I choose to think about myself and how I relate to others along the following lines.
In Jesus, I Am...ACCEPTED, SECURE, SIGNIFICANT. In Jesus, I Am...FREE! I am God’s Child: “Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God” John 1:12 I am God’s Friend: “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” John 15:15
When I was in fifth grade, I had a teacher named Mr. Constantine. He was a stubby, red-headed man with a thick mustache. The other teachers called him the “Old Red Fox” and he taught shop and science.
I have a story to tell you. It starts on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2013
Shame is the San Quentin for your heart – a prison where a man’s heart will probably rot and die. This prison’s cell guard is the foul spirit from hell that says, “You’re not good enough.” or “Who do you think you are?” It is an epidemic in our culture.
The following is an excerpt from my book, Broken to Bulletproof available on Amazon.com. The Prison of Resentment and the Torturers that Run It There’s a chilling scene in the 2013 movie “Zero Dark Thirty” that made the hair on the back of my neck...
I’m staring down the barrel of 2020 and trying to get a jump on the year so I’ve been thinking of my word of the year and what I want to focus on. As I”ve prayed and meditated, I keep getting a vision of horses and being impressed by their strength and control which has conjured the word “MEEK” in my heart. Jesus was “meek.” He said the meek shall inherit the earth. That sounds like a good deal to me…so I’m down for acquiring the quality of “meekness” in 2020.
I have a story to tell you. It starts on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2013
One day, the bird flew so high that it caught a very strong wind current that swept him up and far away from his home and his family. It loved soaring on the high breezes and rode this current for miles and miles in the clear, sunny sky, across great swaths of forests and hills, not even noticing that at some point during his flight, the land slowly turned to dry, dusty desert below.
I got saved when I became a Christ follower at seventeen. Jesus saved me FROM hell and eternal death and he saved me TO heaven and eternal life when I was seventeen. I wanted to go to heaven and be with God when I died. And I definitely didn’t want to go to hell. That’s the arrangement I thought I was entering into when I asked God to forgive my sins and save me that day. But I was wrong.
I want to introduce you to TWO different men. The first man is the man that is broken by sin. This man is not who he wants to be. His current state of existence resembles but little the true man that God originally designed him to be. He is in a constant state of unquenched desire, always wanting, yet never satisfied. His life is marked by fear, confusion, anxiety, shame and guilt. He uses physical solutions to try to solve spiritual problems and it doesn’t work. He spends much energy trying to fulfill legitimate needs in illegitimate ways. This man is caught in a pattern of behaviors that he cannot control. He does things that contradict his true values. While he believes in God, his actions don’t align with how he understands God’s ways and it makes him feel miserable. He lives constantly in a state of being RESTLESS, IRRITABLE and DISCONTENTED. He wants to do the right thing but often is unable or incapable of achieving it. He wears a mask that portrays a stable, successful, orderly life to his friends, family and co-workers that makes it appear as if he has it all together. He spends much energy covering his tracks with lies, deceit and manipulation so he won’t have to suffer the shame of his secret behaviors. He lives under a cloud of SCARCITY, never having enough and never feeling like he IS enough. He suffers from the THREE “I’s” of INSIGNIFICANCE, INCOMPETENCE and IMPOTENCE; not valuable enough, not smart enough and, mostly, never strong enough to break this cycle of shameful behavior he engages in, no matter what strategy he uses or how hard he tries. He is conflicted; in one sense, he does whatever he wants and chooses to do, while in his heart he knows his is consistently doing things he doesn’t want to do..
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Let us introduce you to TWO DIFFERENT MEN. Which one do you most identify with? Which one do you want to become?
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This group helped me understand WHY I was doing the things I was doing that was making my life so miserable. It also helped me understand my mission and find my true purpose in life.
"I couldn't stop drinking. It led to other awful behaviors including porn, prostitutes, strip clubs and massage parlors. These guys helped me find freedom from addictions to all of these things and I've got my life back. Now I'm focused on helping others that struggle in the same ways I did."
"If God had not led me to this group of men, not only would my marriage have been over, but might life might have as well. They helped me stop drinking and viewing porn and helped restore my marriage beyond what we could imagine."
"This community and their men led me into a deeper relationship with God that helped me overcome addictions to porn and sex that have held me in bondage for years."
